“He’s the man you’re going to marry, you just need to know this,” a friend once told Ellen Bennett, the force behind hit apron company Hedley & Bennett and the author of “Dream First, Details Later.” The friend was speaking about Casey Caplowe and added: “I also just need to say that his parents are unbelievable...so, just be ready.” Both statements were true. Ellen married Casey and says: “I’ve had this incredible relationship with [his mother] Cathy ever since I met her.” The two women, who live across the country from one, cook whenever they are together — often preserving lemons, celebrating the California abundance near Ellen’s home, and making their signature chicken.
Raised by a single mother, Ellen grew up in a religious Catholic family. But, she adds, “I always wanted to be Jewish... don’t ask how or where it came from.” When Ellen shared with her now-in-laws her plans to convert, they told her she didn’t need to for them. She pursued Judaism instead for personal reasons. “I love the culture side of it and the beliefs and the tribal aspect of it,” Ellen explains.
She also has a passion for Jewish food. And, her experience working as a professional chef lets her see it through a different lens. “That’s been something fun that I get to bring to the family because they have these long standing traditions, but they don’t come from a professional cooking background… so I get to bring my own flare while still learning from them.”
It’s something she’s shared with Cathy many times. “When we come together and cook, it’s never only her; it’s both of us merging ideas and experiences and making it into something totally new,” says Ellen.
“When we come together and cook, it’s never only her; it’s both of us merging ideas and experiences and making it into something totally new”
A few years ago, they started to collaborate on an apricot chicken recipe that’s a hybrid of their styles and backgrounds. Cathy brought a love of pairing sweet fruit flavors with protein like brisket that she not only grew up with but adopted from her own mother-in-law. Ellen suggested they air dry the chicken and roast it in a hot oven to create a crisp skin. The result is a recipe that’s become a new family staple, sometimes served for shabbat in Cathy’s home — and in Ellen’s for family dinners when the two are lucky enough to be in the same kitchen.